Author Archives: solveigsdaughter

three cheers for time mag’s 2017 “person of the year” choice…

There I am on the cover of Time magazine… ūüėģ Well, not literally but, for all practical purposes:¬† that cover image¬†feels like a representation of all of us who have broken the silence,¬†and, me?¬† I am, a¬†lonnng-time silence-breaker. It has … Continue reading

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be silent or be shunned

I found the following¬†in an¬†online stroll and,¬†it¬†really hit home: “Learning that a relative was sexually abused in childhood can have profound effects on other family members. The disclosure can create a crisis even though the child victims are now adults. … Continue reading

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hard chain to break

I’m single.¬† Not in a relationship.¬† (For, years and, years.)¬† So, my son has urged me to try online dating avenues. This is the thing. What being sexually abused as a child does to a woman… — What being sexually … Continue reading

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“all he thinks about is sex,” complains my aunt to me one day

I’m 13; and, we’ve¬†returned from Memphis; and, we are living¬†with my mom’s sister Tanis¬†& her three kids-still-at-home; and, Aunt Tanis & my father¬†take an afternoon drive¬†one day¬†to return saying, they’ve married; and, a month?, two months? later,¬†my aunt¬†more sensibly¬†gives¬†my father¬†the … Continue reading

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little brides of Christ & the girl in the basement

I went to a Catholic school called Blessed Sacrament in first and second grades.¬† I loved it.¬† I¬†don’t have any of¬†the¬†mean-nun¬†memories so joked about.¬† The only scary part for me was when we were to have our first communion, be … Continue reading

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the dress girl and other mes

I honest to goodness thought there was just one of me. I won’t go so far as to say, I thought I knew me…¬† Before my breakdown and even in the early years of my work with¬†Carol-the-trauma-therapist, I often felt … Continue reading

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i don’t wear makeup. i don’t wear dresses.

I don‚Äôt wear makeup. I don‚Äôt wear dresses. I laughingly tell people, ‚ÄúHey, I grew up with three older brothers, got used to being ‚Äėone of the guys,‚Äô what can I say‚Ķ;‚ÄĚ or I grin and go, ‚ÄúI came of … Continue reading

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