Category Archives: Healing from child sexual abuse

three cheers for time mag’s 2017 “person of the year” choice…

There I am on the cover of Time magazine… 😮 Well, not literally but, for all practical purposes:  that cover image feels like a representation of all of us who have broken the silence, and, me?  I am, a lonnng-time silence-breaker. It has … Continue reading

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be silent or be shunned

I found the following in an online stroll and, it really hit home: “Learning that a relative was sexually abused in childhood can have profound effects on other family members. The disclosure can create a crisis even though the child victims are now adults. … Continue reading

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hard chain to break

I’m single.  Not in a relationship.  (For, years and, years.)  So, my son has urged me to try online dating avenues. This is the thing. What being sexually abused as a child does to a woman… — What being sexually … Continue reading

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the dress girl and other mes

I honest to goodness thought there was just one of me. I won’t go so far as to say, I thought I knew me…  Before my breakdown and even in the early years of my work with Carol-the-trauma-therapist, I often felt … Continue reading

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i don’t wear makeup. i don’t wear dresses.

I don’t wear makeup. I don’t wear dresses. I laughingly tell people, “Hey, I grew up with three older brothers, got used to being ‘one of the guys,’ what can I say…;” or I grin and go, “I came of … Continue reading

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true confessions: i used to try to kill myself

I used to try to kill myself.  (A lot.) I am so glad I was unsuccessful — Whew!? — and also, that I don’t try to do that anymore. JOY I would have missed out on:  a son!  Talented-artistic, he made … Continue reading

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Being true, being vulnerable

Originally posted on Writing From The Ashes:
Being true, being vulnerable I am currently working on an ethics assignment for my Bachelor Degree, and although I am having difficulty with all the theorising and waffle, it has had me thinking…

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